[原创]岁属寂寞

冰城冷雪

<p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 112.5pt; mso-char-indent-count: 7.5;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; COLOR: red; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">岁</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 15pt; COLOR: red;"><span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"><font face="Times New Roman">
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COLOR: blue; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">昨天在航的博客里走了一圈</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: blue; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%;"><font face="Times New Roman">,</font></span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: blue; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">看了一一篇叫做</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: blue; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%;"><font face="Times New Roman">&lt;</font></span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: blue; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">细数寂寞</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: blue; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%;"><font face="Times New Roman">&gt;</font></span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: blue; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">的文章</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: blue; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%;"><font face="Times New Roman">,</font></span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: blue; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">忽地想起汪增祺的一句话来</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: blue; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%;"><font face="Times New Roman">,”</font></span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: blue; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">这些年涌现的散文作家多半是两种人</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: blue; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%;"><font face="Times New Roman">:</font></span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: blue; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">一是女性作家</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: blue; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%;"><font face="Times New Roman"> ,</font></span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: blue; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">一是老人</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: blue; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%;"><font face="Times New Roman">”</font></span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: blue; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">他提到女性作家的感情</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: blue; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%;"><font face="Times New Roman">,</font></span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: blue; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">感觉比较清新</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: blue; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%;"><font face="Times New Roman">,</font></span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: blue; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">这话果然不错</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: blue; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%;"><font face="Times New Roman">.</font></span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: blue; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">这也是这些年来女性作家走红的原因</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: blue; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%;"><font face="Times New Roman">.<p></p></font></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 21.85pt; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: blue; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">卒读其文</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: blue; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%;"><font face="Times New Roman">,</font></span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: blue; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">蓦地想起一个女诗人</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: blue; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%;"><font face="Times New Roman">”</font></span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: blue; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">薜涛</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: blue; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%;"><font face="Times New Roman">”</font></span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: blue; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">来</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: blue; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%;"><font face="Times New Roman">,</font></span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: blue; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">她与杜甫是成都历史上最负有盛名的男女诗人</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: blue; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%;"><font face="Times New Roman">.</font></span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: blue; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">所居一东一西，颇有意味。成都向来是东贫西贵，但是事实却是相反。薜涛的一生被人视为下贱。她的内心却是出世的风雅高人，尤其是理想世界的爱情幻灭之后。更是寄情诗韵，裁书制笺，吟诗写字，自成一小世界。她制作的深红松花小笺，被命名为薜涛笺。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: blue; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%;"><p></p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 21.85pt; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: blue; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">在当时，可是中国文学艺术兴盛时期，对纸张的需求和精致度的要求，都很迫切。当时，四川的麻纸已是天下闻名，造纸术很发达，可薜涛并不满意普通的纸笺，可以想象出她是何等的完美主义者。航的《细数》一文颇有相似之处，论其个人风格，如其伪为，不如弗为之。实在是令人钦佩。薜涛对写作有关的东西精益求精，实质是对艺术和生活的相关态度都融入进去了。她把乐山特产的胭脂木浸泡捣拌马浆，加上云母粉，渗入玉津井水，制成粉红色的笺纸，上面印有松花纹路，专门来眷写自己的诗作，以送友，当时像名负千古的白居易，元稹等都用它来与薜涛唱和。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: blue; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%;"><p></p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 21.85pt; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: blue; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">航的文字里的痴倒有几分骨似薜涛，“老大不能收拾得，与君开似好男儿”，这种迟暮且不得归回应的感情，让人读来心酸。最终薜与元“花开不同赏，花不同悲”的忧伤结局让人心寒。航的文字里所透露出来的忧伤，与才气的确让人心里不是滋味。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: blue; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%;"><p></p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 21.85pt; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: blue; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">只不过薜涛的盛名许多诗人都笔误为她的艺术才华有附风颂雅，攀附当时的文人贵士的感觉。但是细读其诗，的确不然，很幸的是航的文字很干净，只是读起来有丝丝缕缕的羁绊，心随文字起伏。淡淡地。跟风似的文字至少在她的文章里是看不见的，有的只是她敛拾得来的风趣。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: blue; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%;"><p></p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 21.85pt; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: blue; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">“为了今后的不寂寞，得耐得住现在的寂寞”，同样的心境，同样的才气，同样的思路。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: blue; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%;"><p></p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 21.85pt; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: blue; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">一个喜欢粤剧的女子，的确不一般。我其实对戏剧是一窍不通的。今年偶尔看得几部戏曲，也是七拼八凑的，黄梅戏，京剧《霸王别姬》，昆曲《牡丹亭》，最初吸引我的只是唱词，后来的，却是戏曲的内涵主题，唱腔，服饰，演员的神态......艺术向我敞开一扇大门后，我才知道这个世界有多奇妙！而这些，决不是一朝一夕所成就的。它需要许多文化元素的沉淀。而粤剧是个很古老的东东。这些都是需要耐得住寂寞的人才行。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: blue; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%;"><p></p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 21.85pt; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: blue; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">当然，她的行文中决没有许多男作家的大器，有的只是清新宛约，像沈从文在人生的最后，放弃写作的专权，专究服饰文化，一考究就弄出个大世界。这一点应该值得她去借鉴。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: blue; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%;"><p></p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 21.85pt; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: blue; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">但无论如何这个年龄段能洗去身上的浮躁，很清醒的培养自己的意识的人在在不多了。在这人纸醉金迷的时代，到处都是膨胀的欲望。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: blue; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%;"><p></p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 21.85pt; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: blue; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">寂寞应该是个很感性理智的词，对于航来说应该是温柔，独立的。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: blue; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%;"><p></p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 21.85pt; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%;"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: blue; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">最后我只能以席慕容的诗来作结局。“我原该在山坡上牧羊</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: blue; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%;"><font face="Times New Roman">\</font></span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: blue; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">我爱的男儿骑着马来时</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: blue; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%;"><font face="Times New Roman">\</font></span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: blue; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">会看见我的红裙飘扬</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: blue; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%;"><font face="Times New Roman">.</font></span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: blue; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;; mso-hansi-font-family: &quot;Times New Roman&quot;;">”</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: blue; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%;"><p></p></span></p>

月芽儿

<p><font size="5">呵,好一篇岁属寂寞.</font></p><p><font size="5">    看完此文,第一感觉就是寂寞也没什么不好的,精益求精的寂寞,抵制外界欲望的寂寞,那种心境,那种态度,并不是每个人都能做得到的.</font></p><p><font size="5">    耐得住寂寞的人,也算是高人了.</font></p><p><font size="5">    在下佩服呀!</font></p>

青春大哥

<p><font color="#0000ff" size="4">   航是哪位作家？看楼主其文，是大大推荐航的作品风格。如：</font></p><p><font color="#0000ff" size="4">1。航的文字里所透露出来的忧伤，与才气的确让人心里不是滋味。</font></p><p><font color="#0000ff" size="4">2。航的文字很干净，只是读起来有丝丝缕缕的羁绊，心随文字起伏。淡淡地。跟风似的文字至少在她的文章里是看不见的，有的只是她敛拾得来的风趣。</font></p><p><font size="4"><font color="#0000ff"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: blue; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman';">3。寂寞应该是个很感性理智的词，对于航来说应该是温柔，独立的。</span></font></font></p><p><font size="4"><font color="#0000ff"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: blue; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman';">   很想一览航的大作。</span></font></font></p>

空山鼓瑟

<p><font size="6">看来冰城和他的朋友航都是能俯拾人生之人，欢迎冰城的好文章！远握！</font></p>

月芽儿

<div class="msgheader">QUOTE:</div><div class="msgborder"><b>以下是引用<i>青春大哥</i>在2008-7-23 15:20:11的发言：</b><br/><p><font color="#0000ff" size="4">航是哪位作家？看楼主其文，是大大推荐航的作品风格。如：</font></p><p><font color="#0000ff" size="4">1。航的文字里所透露出来的忧伤，与才气的确让人心里不是滋味。</font></p><p><font color="#0000ff" size="4">2。航的文字很干净，只是读起来有丝丝缕缕的羁绊，心随文字起伏。淡淡地。跟风似的文字至少在她的文章里是看不见的，有的只是她敛拾得来的风趣。</font></p><p><font size="4"><font color="#0000ff"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: blue; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman';">3。寂寞应该是个很感性理智的词，对于航来说应该是温柔，独立的。</span></font></font></p><p><font size="4"><font color="#0000ff"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: blue; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman';">很想一览航的大作。</span></font></font></p></div><p><font size="5">航是冰城的一位好友,在东湖社区的,文字功底好!</font></p>

听雪

认真学习，也很想很想见识下航的文字！

青春大哥

月芽儿，你也认识这位航？哦，原来是来自东海中的龙府。

静闲

<font color="#0000ff">我原该在山坡上牧羊<span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: blue; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%;"><font face="Times New Roman">\</font></span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: blue; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman';">我爱的男儿骑着马来时</span><span lang="EN-US" style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: blue; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%;"><font face="Times New Roman">\</font></span></font><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt; COLOR: blue; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman';">会看见我的红裙飘扬</span>

玉儿

这个世界寂寞的人很多，寂寞的女人更多。